How to start dating when you are in your fiftys
You can forgive yourself if you forget to open a door or pull out a chair for your date, Keogh says, but you should notice and learn from your mistakes. Pepper Schwartz, a psychologist writing for AARP magazine.
You may have fallen into the habit of dressing in a slovenly manner, or gained a lot of weight in the course of your marriage or your grief.
However, it’s not a good idea to be looking for Mr. Perfect, as you’re likely to be disappointed, Schwartz says.
Try not to compare your date to your spouse, either.
Whether or not the comparison is in the other person’s favor, it’s a sure sign that you’re not really over the death of your late husband or wife. Instead, go into dating hoping to “meet a good person who is fun to be with and who shares your values and goals”, says Schwartz, and you’re bound to have more fun.
Emma Wells has been writing professionally since 2004.
Keogh also writes that it’s natural for your date to want to know about your late spouse if he didn't know him while he was alive.
It’s ok for you to share something about your late spouse as long as you can change the subject and show an interest in the person you’re dating now.
Below are some suggested don’ts and must-dos for you to consider.After all, one of the main purposes of dating is to have fun!Many widows and widowers who were married for many years have forgotten what it’s like to go on a first date.Just make sure that you can honor your spouse and still be emotionally prepared for this new chapter of your life.Keogh says that overwhelming feelings of guilt can be an indication that you’re not quite ready to get back out there.