Sign up for shopittome.com's "Sale Mail." They'll e-mail you when brands you've chosen have gone on sale in your size and in your area. Once I accepted that women were "crazy" (many older guys had insisted they were for years), it seemed to take a huge load of pressure off me.
No longer was I trying to rationalize moves that women made that got me into crazy analysis cycles.
But if the baggage becomes apparent too early in the relationship, then a guy will probably bail.
Also, baggage causes people to put pressure on or damage a relationship, so it may be doomed from the outset. Commitment means that I've decided that the woman I'm settling down with is perfect and there is no one else out there for me.
While we played, security goons watched closely, and my dad could tell that we were nervous: "Just act like you are supposed to be here, and they won't ask any questions." Sure enough, it worked. Once I've made it into bed with a girl, no way I'm going to let my stupid mouth wreck things.
In fact, we've most likely made it to this point in spite of my mouth.
Hopefully most of us don't make it obvious, but we check out a cutie when we can.
I think the old adage "Girls mature faster than boys" comes into play here.
Commitment is a sign of maturity, and it just takes some of us longer. I know if a girl seems unsure of herself in bed, it gets distracting and starts to feel awkward.
The best thing to do is to act like you have some experience, and not question anything.
I think back to the advice my dad once gave my sisters and me when he snuck us onto the "premium members only" tennis courts at this fancy resort at the beach.